Wed, May 25thAn Introduction to The Power of TED* (The Empowerment Dynamic), with David Emerald and Bert Parlee, Ph.D
Cost: To be Announced
WEDNESDAY WORKSHOP! This is not a day off from work; this IS work!
May 25, 2011 — 9 am – 5:30 pm
with Master Teachers David Emerald and Bert Parlee!
The Boulder Integral Center, Boulder, Colorado
Registration Details below
Learn the keys to breaking out of unhealthy communication patterns, with TED (The Empowerment Dynamic)!
Who should attend: coaches and therapists, businesspeople, teachers, parents, teams working together from your office or anyone who wants to move their relationships:
- From problem-focused to outcome-centered
- From anxiety-engaging to passion-based
- From reactive to creative
… and help others do the same!
TED (The Empowerment Dynamic) builds on the Drama Triangle, the classic psychological model that reveals how the roles and mindsets of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer keep us stuck in non-productive patterns.
Then TED goes a big step further, not only by revealing and releasing these dysfunctional patterns, but by showing us how to transform the energies of the Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer into new, vastly more powerful ways of being: the Creator, Challenger and Coach.
TED* provides a set of a remarkable framework and processes that can transform your life and your relationships – both internally with yourself and life experience, as well as externally at home, at work, and in other important interactions.
This 1-day seminar provides an in-depth overview – with Integral insights and “color commentary” by Bert – of the following:
- The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT) and how the roles and mindsets of Victim, Persecutor and Rescuer keep us stuck in non-productive patterns.
- How The Empowerment Dynamic* (*TED) creates more powerful roles as alternatives to those found in the DDT.
- Key differences between a problem-focused & reactive orientation versus one that is outcome-centered and passion driven.
- How to harness the Dynamic Tension framework as a simple way to create the outcomes you want.
You will leave with the ability to:
- Identify your own patterns and the roles you play.
- Recognize roles that others play.
- Begin to make the shift between the orientations and make small steps to manifest powerful results in your work and life.
REGISTER FOR THIS EVENT
- Boulder Integral Monthly Donating Members: $85
- Standard: $95
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“David has created an extremely useful approach to understanding our choices & the choices others make in the way we meet our individual and collective experiences in life… (His) TED* is without doubt one of the most valuable, practical, and accessible approaches to making deliberate, conscious choices that create momentum towards solutions and remove the excuses.
~ Greg Magennis, Leadership Institute Lead, Stagen
David Emerald Womeldorff: David is co-founder of the Bainbridge Leadership Center (Bainbridge Island, WA) and director of its Self Leadership and Organization Leadership practices. When he’s not out changing the world, one shift at a time, he can be found coaching in the Executive Integral Leadership Program at The University of Notre Dame’s Mendoza School of Business or bicycling around Bainbridge Island. David brings TED* into every aspect of his work, coaching executive teams and entire organizations on how to shift their work environment and mindset from drama to choice with The Empowerment Dynamic. For more, see: www.powerofTED.com
Blog: TED* Thoughts
Bert Parlee, Ph.D.: Offering leadership and other trainings around the world, Dr Parlee is a licensed clinical psychologist with private psychotherapy and executive/personal life coaching practices in Mill Valley, California. From its inception, Bert has been a vital part of Ken Wilber’s Integral Institute in Colorado, where he also works as a large group trainer and facilitator. He has facilitated and co-trained with Don Beck at Spiral Dynamics seminars, and is a founding partner of Integral Development Associates, offering management consultation, leadership training and executive coaching. He also serves as a training facilitator and executive coach with the Stagen Leadership Institute in Dallas.
Bert teaches at the Mendoza College of Business at the University of Notre Dame in Indiana, and for the Organizational Psychology Coaching program at John F. Kennedy University in Pleasanton, California and the Organizational Psychology MBA program at Golden Gate University in San Francisco. Bert honored in Political Science from the University of New Brunswick in 1977, and has a MA in contemplative psychology from Naropa University, 1984. He received his doctorate in clinical psychology at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, 1993.
More from the TED* Newsletter:
Faces of the Rescuer
“This third role-the one who steps into the dance between Persecutor and Victim-is Rescuer. The dictionary defines the verb rescue this way: to free from confinement, danger, or evil; to save or deliver… Rescuers need Victims-someone to protect or fix-to bolster their self-esteem… With Victims to rescue, Rescuers feel justified; they avoid abandonment by being there for others. They foster dependency by becoming indispensable to a Victim’s sense of well-being.“
From the Chapter 3 (“A Drawing in the Sand”) of The Power of TED*
| When participants in workshops are asked to identify which is their dominant or default role when in the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™, the vast majority identify themselves as a Rescuer. Certainly, it is perceived as more benevolent than the roles of Victim and, especially, Persecutor. A Rescuer is often well intentioned, not aware of how they reinforce the powerlessness in the Victim they are serving.As a “Recovering Rescuer” myself, that was definitely my primary role, though I also did my fair share of playing the other roles as well. In my family-of-origin I was the peacemaker; in my intimate relationships I was the pleaser; and in my management roles I was often the hero problem-solver or mediator. There were other ways I played the Rescuer in other aspects of life and, make no mistake, I still find myself playing the role from time-to-time. A marvelous and gently-confrontive book has recently come to my attention that has sparked reflection on the various ways – or faces – that of a Rescuer. When Helping You is Hurting Me, by Carmen Renee Berry serves as a Challenger to anyone whose identity is bound up in the Rescuer role. In her work as a social worker and counselor, Berry observed and developed her own version of the DDT, with its triangle of roles: Victim, Offender (Persecutor), and Messiah (Rescuer). She identifies seven different faces of “Messiah” and how each assumes responsibility for other people (who, I would add, they approach as Victims needing them):
As already mentioned, I most closely relate to the Pleaser (intimate relationships), Protector (family-of-origin) and both Counselor and Teacher (as a manager). Before reading her book, I had the opportunity to meet with Carmen Renee Berry and am grateful to be developing a collegial relationship with her. Having read The Power of TED* before our meeting, she enthusiastically expressed the contribution that The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*)™ makes in offering people “another place to go” as they grow beyond the DDT, in general, and the Rescuer role, specifically. A Coach views others as being ultimately capable and resourceful, whereas a Rescuer treats the other as powerless or in need of fixing. In this role, we serve others by seeing them as a Creator in their own right, and supporting them in the process of creating outcomes, solving problems or responding to life circumstance. A Coach does this by asking questions that help clarify envisioned outcomes, current realities, and possible Baby Steps (small sequential actions that lead toward lasting change). A Coach dares the other to dream and discern the pathways for manifesting their visions. Another possible shift may be from Rescuer to Challenger. A conscious, constructive Challenger serves as a catalyst for change, learning, and growth and creates an opportunity for thoughtful action for a Creator. They, too, view those they challenge as a Creator in their own right. There are ways to serve – as a Co-Creator, a Coach and a Challenger – that increases resourcefulness and empowers others. We need not rescue. We need not be a Messiah. (A final note: As we have been reminded recently by world events, there are times and situations in which is reasonable and appropriate to consciously and deliberately step into the role of Rescuer. For more on this, see the “A Time to Rescue.”) |
Putting it Into Practice
If you are one of the many who easily adopt the role of Rescuer/Messiah, the following reflection or journaling exercise is for you:
- What faces of the Rescuer do you take on? In what aspects of your life do you take on which face?
- In what ways are you seeing the other(s) as powerless or as needing you to “do” for them?
- Which of the TED* roles (Creator; Challenger; or Coach) would best allow you to serve the other(s) in ways that empower and increase their own capabilities?
- What is one baby step you can take to begin making the shift to that TED* role?
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March 25th, 2011 at 5:35 pm
It would be nice to define “TED*”
March 25th, 2011 at 5:40 pm
Oh, never mind. Found it right in front of my nose. Still, it would have been nice to define it in the text right after the first “TED*.” I kept looking for some sort of footnote and didn’t see one. Denala
April 26th, 2011 at 10:37 am
I wished I could be there sounds great, sound enhancing for coaching. After participating excellent Integral Incubator last fall, I would love to be part of this program as well. Hopefully some time in Future or may be you would think of doing it on-line?
Zerrin Baser M.D. and Executive Developmental Coach -Turkey